We humans, each and every one of us, need other people to help us reach happiness and fulfillment. Most of all, each of us needs meaningful, deeply loving friendship. Otherwise, without it, we cannot grow in happiness.
Dear Wisdom’s Heart,
Long ago, a zen student discover his teacher sobbing inconsolably. “But Master,” the student asked in dismay, “why are you crying?” The Master said, “I’ve just learned my mother has died.” “But Master,” the student pleaded, trying to console him, “don’t you say to view life as a star at dawn, a bubble in a stream, a flash of lightening in a summer cloud, a flickering lamp, a phantom, and a dream?” “Yes,” the Master said tearfully, “and now… the dream is extremely sad.”
Do you quarrel with yourself, or get down on yourself harshly? Can you be your own worst enemy? Do you give up on or berate yourself at times? That feels awful, right? Of course, we’ve all done this, yet a deeper, more satisfying friendship with ourselves is possible. How so?